Can You Have A Female Best Man?

Posted by Connie Moore on

Traditionally the groom selects his close male friends and male relatives to serve as best man and groomsmen, and it is considered an honour to be chosen.
From these groomsmen, the groom usually only chooses one to serve as best man.

In recent years many grooms chose to have best women instead of best man when they married, with the top choice will be their sisters .
If the groom wishes to give this honor to a female, the female who acts as "bestman" (for the groom, not the bride), how do you say it?
"Bestwoman"? "Groomswoman"? Is there even a word for it? It's not very common, but it does happen.

She may be termed the best woman or best person, although traditionally she would still be referred to as the 'best man'.
The bride's equivalent of the best man is the bridesmaid, or the maid/matron of honor. If this honoree is male, he may be called a "man of honor".


During a wedding ceremony the best man stands next to the groom, slightly behind him. This means that the four people present at the altar are the officiant
(such as a civil celebrant, priest, rabbi, minister, or other religious figure), the bride, groom, and best man.
This is common in some western countries, although in others the best man and bridesmaid participate on an equal footing.

What Should She Wear?
This is very much dependent on what she feels comfortable in. Most of the time they will opt for a females tuxedo or suit.
This will normally match the style and colouring of the other groomsmen.
Alternatively, she could wear similar clothes to the other bridesmaids, if she is close to the bride-to-be.
The third option is for her to wear a dress that matches the colour code of the groomsmen.

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What Gift Do You Get Her?
While it is a common tradition to buy the best man something such as cufflinks, a watch, bottle of whisky or some cigars, these might not match her .
The other choice in gift which might be better is getting something personalised.
What you get is completely down to you, but put some thought into it and think of something you have both shared.
For example, I run a travel blog and have travelled a lot with a female mate of mine, therefore I’d get something like a compass necklace with a message engraved on it.